{"id":244644,"date":"2021-10-13T14:27:14","date_gmt":"2021-10-13T01:27:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.barbararelph.com\/uncoupling\/?p=244644"},"modified":"2021-10-13T14:42:45","modified_gmt":"2021-10-13T01:42:45","slug":"can-relationship-counselling-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.barbararelph.com\/uncoupling\/can-relationship-counselling-help\/","title":{"rendered":"Separating? Could relationship counselling help?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hard to believe, looking back, but the only time I saw a counsellor through my separation was to figure out how to tell my partner I wanted out.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Over a few sessions I gained confidence in my decision to the point that I knew I could &#8211; and should &#8211; do it, and it was the right thing for me. It was, without a doubt, the most difficult day of my life.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Researching and writing the sections on getting help, I found some useful and insightful resources online, but was so grateful to have the help of an experienced relationship counsellor. When I told her I was having difficulty with sections on communicating with your ex on a new footing, not falling into the same patterns in future relationships, and ways to take care of yourself, she said \u201cyou\u2019re in the right place\u201d.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I wrote the relevant sections, and she gave her stamp of approval. Talking about the book with her was so helpful; it made me realise I could have benefitted from using a counsellor for so much more than I did, even if the result would have ultimately been the same.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do you have a productive means of communicating with your ex? 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Buy your copy here&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.uncoupling.guide\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">www.uncoupling.guide<\/a>.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hard to believe, looking back, but the only time I saw a counsellor through my separation was to figure out how to tell my partner I wanted out.&nbsp;&nbsp; Over a few sessions I gained confidence in my decision to the point that I knew I could &#8211; and should &#8211; do it, and it was [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":244647,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-244644","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Separating? 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