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By Barbara Relph<\/h4>\n

Uncoupling<\/h1>\n

an insider’s guide to separation in New\u00a0Zealand<\/h2>\n

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Answering practical questions to help you navigate the challenges of separation, Uncoupling <\/strong>will help you move through each step and into the next phase of your life.<\/p>\n

Whether you are uncoupling from a relationship, or find yourself suddenly uncoupled, you will find practical help here.<\/p>\n

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About Uncoupling<\/span><\/h2>\n

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This is not the story of a separation, but is a practical guide, inspired by my own experiences and research with New Zealand experts.<\/h4>\n

Answering many of the tricky questions resulting from separation, the book is dotted with real life anecdotes shared by the many men and women I interviewed while researching separation in New Zealand.<\/p>\n

The stages of separation are presented in a logical sequence from the difficult early days, to making sense of the legal process, through to consciously creating a better life.<\/p>\n

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It’s one of life’s most difficult decisions. Uncoupling<\/strong> outlines useful ways to help you make the decision to stay coupled, or to uncouple.<\/p>\n

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How do you tell your children? Where will you live? How will you pay for it?
<\/span>All while grieving a lost relationship. Uncoupling<\/strong> guides you through.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Enter this process with your eyes open, understanding the resolution options and the law covering key separation issues – property and children.<\/p>\n

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Do I need a lawyer? How to make a good decision and get good value. It’s expensive and Uncoupling<\/strong> shows you how to minimise costs.<\/p>\n

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It’s time to take control, starting with taking care of yourself. What do you want from your new life? Are your finances under control? Is your work life future-fit?<\/p>\n

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How is your social life? Have you tried online dating? And if you do happen to meet the new love of your life, do you know how to protect yourself and your assets?<\/p>\n

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